(Irish Times) ‘My partner lives in terror of Covid-19. We even had to cancel our wedding’Ask Roe: ‘She insists I wear a mask all day, and …

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Dolphin

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I expect there are similar complaints about fears about all sorts of things: radiation, alien invasions, ghosts, etc. I don't see irrational fear of covid being any different. I wouldn't be surprised if weddings were cancelled because someone heard that a 5G tower had been installed nearby.
 
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I expect there are similar complaints about fears about all sorts of things: radiation, alien invasions, ghosts, etc. I don't see irrational fear of covid being any different. I wouldn't be surprised if weddings were cancelled because someone heard that a 5G tower had been installed nearby.
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You are aware that people with MECFS often lose huge amounts of functioning from covid infections? How are we supposed to protect ourselves if the entire world has given up other than by isolating and masking? I hate it but as a severe person I have no other choice other than expose myself to sickness that could destroy the last vestiges of.my functioning.


Your comment is incredibly thoughtless and insensitive.
 
Creekside said:
I expect there are similar complaints about fears about all sorts of things: radiation, alien invasions, ghosts, etc. I don't see irrational fear of covid being any different. I wouldn't be surprised if weddings were cancelled because someone heard that a 5G tower had been installed nearby.
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I got one single covid infection which led to MECFS. I don't care if anyone else masks, but if I'm ever able to leave the house again, I'm going to wear a mask around other people. I already know that I'm in the 1% club of people with unfortunate genetic makeup who can't handle covid long-term.
 
There is no info about the partner’s health.
I get all the latest Covid vaccines, I have to wear an N-95 mask all day in the office, or any time I am indoors anywhere.
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This is normal if you want to avoid an infection. Prevention only works when in use.
This situation has affected my friendships and it’s meant we no longer get to do Christmas with my family (she does not have a relationship with her family). I also turned down a good job promotion because it would have required me being unmasked indoors with colleagues. We also had to cancel our wedding because it was going to be indoors, costing me a few thousand euro. We haven’t eaten in a restaurant in years.
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This sounds like an attempt at a zero tolerance for infections.

Are there jobs that require you to not wear a mask? Perhaps some. Cancelling a wedding is an extreme measure to take, and they could have masked and used air purifiers around themselves for a high risk reduction. He could have met the family alone. But that was not an option for their partner, or required a lot of sacrifices:
If I choose to be unmasked socially, I have to isolate from her for seven days and test negative twice before we can share space again. This means I have to weigh up any social invitation against the cost of living in the basement for a week. We have separate bedrooms, bathrooms and living areas and it now feels like we are just housemates. We are never intimate.
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This really is extreme. What even is the purpose of living together if you don’t really live together?

If I ever get my health back I want to mask consistently. And I would want a partner to do the same. But every gain has a cost, and the marginal gains from some of the measures described here have a very high cost. Most would not think they are worth it, unless it was medically necessary to avoid severe or fatal outcomes.

It must be very challenging to live under these conditions.
 
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