That's an interesting point. There's also something about unfamiliar sensory environments being much more draining than familiar ones.
It’s an important point
I sort of get the points I think of all these people intuitively perhaps but I’m being pedantic doing mental gymnastics partly out of curiosity of the context (after all I’ve been a living n=1 science experiment all my life that noons wanted to hear the observations for) and I’m partly intrigued because it means different things depending on the context
if for example you take it as someone not at the severe end’ maybe mild if they can actually avoid PEM (I’ve never been able to for a week but I’ve always been moderate or more severe I think) then I’m imagining if they got through their studies before me/cfs they might be able to have a job with enough wiggle room to make the me/cfs work without riding/rolling PEM and basically accumulating it until break point where you could no longer pretend you can perform and needing annueal leave to return to function. Or maybe they use that and adjustments like some work from home to somehow avoid PEM.
but perhaps I guess it’s at the expense of what they’d like to do with their social life or sport - perhaps things they were used to having before that they notice. I guess it isn’t ’I could have started going to the supermarket weekly earlier’ that’s if mention?
I can see it being a perfectly harmless and understandable and useful pint to say their experience was they didn’t dare try eg sport until they’d felt well for a really long time. And there was no PEM at all - what a shock , so it’s ’gone?’ And given people are looking back they’ve gone through that 6-12 months down the road (where pushing thru at gym really hit me even if I’d given it up earlier) and then realised ‘it really is fine’
maybe that might be going for a few drinks or a cinema with increasingly sensory films
anyway
@Midnattsol that’s a terrific point here because it’s not just the running vs running before (if that’s the example) if for example an food allergy has died down along with sensory sensitivity. And that cinema didn’t affect you as badly so you could put social things closer together. It is like a snowball when going down getting more ill and I guess the same the other way.
but you’ve got to keep the show on the road work wise so can’t just end up ill again and there is perhap an if only I’d known - so you have to keep an eye not just on did it give PEM but ‘am I coping’ at one of two months and so on.
it’s hard to imagine because of the types of job I did and culture it feels any available at the time would get sucked up by ‘events’ but I was never out of pem
Ive definitely never really been able to do eg after work drinks for an hour on a weekday as even in my gentlest job that was enough extra to definitely throw not just the week out but it’s hard to catch it back up. And a raise in workload could do the same and lead to disaster like sleeping thru alarms within weeks.
I can see how there are certain times in life where if you’d got advice saying be very careful even after you think you are ok that you’d think perhaps either you’d missed out or was it advice to others that you have to feel that you’ve been well fif quite a while before that magic happens where it turns out it’s not there anymore.
I’ve never been in that position so it’s interesting to imagine if my life might have been different.
I also don’t know if some had it more enforced and eg they might have missed out on career or family things that maybe might have been possible or maybe they were just on the other side of the coin to those with that child who wonders if they’d rested then they wouldn’t be disabled.
it’s intriguing
I’d like to know if any were recent because I get the sense that for decades now most in Uk wouldn’t have been allowed that rest but 3yrs sums wise is better than pushing someone and writing them off forever before they are 40. But I don’t know whether they were severe enough it needed that or they just had jobs that they had leverage to bend the hours of enough to be under whatever severity and other aspects of support and living were different
I guess the thing is are there any guarantees because the other thing is the pressure going on that you must get better too.
I’ll be honest I can’t get a proper handle on Neil’s story because the 1989 article feels different to what I sssumed was his story from the 2019 one. So it’s all a big guess there.