Joan Crawford
Senior Member (Voting Rights)
This has impacted me a lot over the years. I too used to think I was 'unfit' and I'd try and get going, again and again - walking, swimming, running, cycling and push through what I now know now was PEM - but keep going because is was supposed to be good for me. In hindsight, it did confuse and frighten me a lot. It could be quite variable - where sometimes I could do things with minimal payback - or more confusingly I'd have delayed PEM. Other times I'd feel dreadful and need to stop exercising for months at a time to recover. Feeling lazy, upset and not sure why. Never feeling good after activity - just ill/grim. The end result after years of trying, failing, trying, failing etc was the development of severe ME type symptoms after a chest infection. Suddenly, I went from mild/moderate to severe - it was like falling over a cliff and did not knowing where I would land. Absolutely terrifying experience. I didn't have the language/word for this for a long time.Yes I think a lot of media and health service messaging gaslights people into thinking they are unhealthy because they don't do intense exercise 4 times a week.
Looking back I was probably in better shape than your average office worker when mild, but was convinced I was 'unfit' - mostly because I felt dreadful all the time. And media tells us we feel bad because we're not hitting the gym or running 5k - it's always your fault.
It's frustrating to realise how much common wisdom about health and exercise is bullshit.
The gaslighting and social / moral view to exercise vigorously and to keep as healthy as possible sends mixed messages. It's presented as a magnificent cure all / aid to benefit wellbeing overall. And for some - with Type 2 diabetes, mildly raised BP etc, exercise and better diet can help some to turn that around. But not everyone can. Are they to feel? Shame? Failure? Inadequate? Useless? Hopeless?
If frequent, vigorous exercise really was that fabulous - it'd be much more readily and cheaply available. It is; however, much more doable with resources - money, time, access to gyms/clubs/equipment etc - it's perhaps more about class, wealth and status (peacocking?) than objective benefit over and above some general movement and daily activity.