Reading this thread I found some of them I only agreed with parts of (or I felt that there was extra stuff in there that made it harder to see the main point) so here they are, edited down to something I’d agree with/want to say:
So Z can manage maybe an hour for coffee and chat, at the right time of day. There is obvious dropping off towards the end of the hour, cognitively and physically. This was especially noticeable when we were doing the PIP process! She would not be able to do this everyday.
My daughter can, some weeks, manage an outing of a couple of hours, or having a friend round. This is preceded and followed by a few days of doing very little physically, other than getting up/dressed/eating etc. Her cognitive processing is always significantly impaired. There is no way she can understand the AS level Maths that she passed with an A grade, nearly a decade ago.
I do like the battery analogy. Most people understand this from phones/laptops etc in that they run down and then neeed recharging. But with age or an Apple product, in time it cannot fully recharge. My daughter manages a tiny percentage of the activity that she used to be able to do, pre ME.
I always steer well clear of the word 'energy' when talking to people about ME. Because people (when trying to understand another's experience) always try to relate whats being said to what they already know, & when i was healthy i used to sometimes say "goodness me i am so tired i've got no energy at all today".
What i meant was that i felt flat & sluggish, like it was a big effort to peel my arse off the settee & do things, but i was still entirely capable of doing whatever i needed/wanted to, i just felt lethargic....
So my sense of how much energy i had was that i didnt have much, but i was still pretty much unlimited in what i was actually able to do.
So if i mention 'lack of energy' or 'running out of energy' to people, they mostly say "oh yes i know what that's like", but they are relating it to their own experiences of feeling as i described.
And that is NOTHING like what i'm experiencing! ... I'd be thrilled to only feel like that! When i say i feel too ill/weak to stand up, it's because when i try to, because i need to, i cant. ...in my experience people always think it means "feeling knackered but still totally capable if you push yourself". And thats not what i want them to think, because it's grossly inaccurate,
In my opinion whatever you say healthies will say me too whether the word is fatigue, energy or ill.
i think there is definitely something about energy but it is so closely tied up to levels of symptoms pain, fluish feeling headache sore throat or whatever it is.
I mostly ignored it for years, but I had mild chronic fatigue since my teens. I could still do most normal things and was active, but I was tired all the time. Never stopped me from being relentless when playing sports or doing hard work.
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Absolutely nothing to do with the ME exhaustion, which is more similar to the kind that comes from the flu with a fever, when it's more apt to talk of weakness, of struggling with minimal exertion. It's a much more complex concept than normal fatigue, way more layers and depth.
To an external observer it's impossible to see the difference, but they are nothing alike.
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I know what being tired all the time is. It's absolutely nothing like ME. This is completely above and beyond it and is better described as sick.
Excellent description
@Invisible Woman - that is exactly how I feel. Like a more under powered engine than needed for many ordinary tasks. With extraordinary demands I can start the task, but my power doesn't endure, and I am forced to stop because my power runs out.
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Thank you @ Andy for posing this question.
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Very obviously, this is a difficult concept to get across to healthy people. I have known people who are healthy for all intents and purposes , who are also quite sedentary. They don't see any difference between themselves and someone with ME who needs to rest a lot. Even though very sedentary, taking on tasks above their usual activity level will not tire them out. More extraordinary tasks might but not run of the mill things like shopping and cleaning the house.
That is my experience of the rapid fatigability when exercising. The power we expect to be there is not there at all and any effort to push harder is also associated with a rapid increase in pain (which diminishes quickly if I back off).
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For me, physical exertion can lead to cognitive symptoms, but cognitive exertion does not lead to increased fatigability or weakness of my muscles.
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That is not my experience at all. I like exercising. For me, riding up a steep hill is fun, but this is something I can no longer do without an electric bike. On the 2 day CPET, my heart rate peaked at 202BPM on the first day and 194BPM the second day - my problem is not a lack of pre-motor cortex drive! Overall I had above average VO2Max for my age, though by no means athletic. (Absolute VO2 of around 3.5L/min)
Personally: I find that I can be very bad at knowing when I’m getting tired. Perhaps I’ve always adjusted my perception of being tired against what I expect of myself in activity, and my expectations no longer match my physical ability.
The single most effective intervention I have found my illness is to try various strategies for readjusting my own expectations, to build in stops in activity to give me time to notice if I am in pain (or otherwise drained by the activity), and to preemptively moderate my activity. Learning to do so has given me a great deal more of my functional life back (because I focus on being efficient with what I have, and flexible in goals).
So, answering @Andy’s question:
I avoid approaching fatiguability as much as I practically can. It’s a bad sign.
And it has changed: When newly ill, and for a good 5yrs after that, I was able to perform physically as well as most fit and active healthies - but then I paid for it 24hrs later. Now, more like 6-8yrs in (I forget), I am more easily fatigued, but I might be able to put that down to lack of activity and fitness compared to my past. My past lifetime of health and fitness lasted me an inordinate number of years of initial illness but I believe I’m running out of that now. I’m sad about it but it might help me to avoid crashes if I can feel tired when pushing past my daily allocation of activity.
So, always had a limit, a quota in this illness. More recently become rapidly fatiguable (as well as a the quota, which I can eek out through a careful day). Hard to know if that’s me being aware, a change in my own physiology, or what. Not going to guess.
I have liked the original spoon theory because it seemed to highlight the tangible limits, that it’s not about stretching out a spoon or looking at it differently. Once it’s gone, it’s gone, you don’t get extras (no matter how ‘good’ you were).
I get the flu (including ‘tummy bug’). Just without an infection. I suppose we could theorise about it being an immune response. But I don’t want to waste more time theorising. (I’m interested in 1) Research by those who understand and practise the scientific method or 2) personal experiences but not a mix-up.)
The exception (for me) to the hard, impassable, limit .... or the increasingly dense symptom load (sometimes it’s not a hard wall) ... is adrenalin (or whatever cocktail my body produces) = I do find that I can do more when it’s an emergency. But when that is over I am tired and then 24hrs after the start of the extra activity I’m quite predictably ill (not depressed, not unmotivated, not feeling a bit under the weather - I’m sick and incapacitated).
I have a quota. Sometimes it aggregates over a week, but at some point, the pain and illness will arrive and take their toll.