The whole personality and behavioural field is far less sophisticated that it appears from a distance. I have been shocked at how ratings of serious mental health issues are derived from often inane questions. The survey instruments are claimed to have validity, but if you look deeper, the assessing of validity is often pretty spurious. The answers to the questions are scored, producing numbers, and suddenly the tool is no longer just a collection of ambiguous and often trivial questions. It is 'scientifically valid data' that can be used, context-free, to put labels on people.
There are all sorts of biases that can affect the data. Participants for a trial may be selected according to their attitudes; the participants that make it to the end of the trial and fill out the forms are often self-selecting. There is often priming, for example suggesting that people with ME/CFS are perfectionists, people will be encouraged to find the instances of trauma in their history, they will be encouraged to label themselves as Type A strivers, or people pleasers. And people will do that, because if there is a personality problem causing their illness, they can fix it, and become well.
Care of people with ME/CFS, even children, is not some magic thing that pediatricians have some special insight into. It is largely commonsense because there are no disease modifying treatments. I think you have enough skills and knowledge to look at the surveys they are asking the parents of the young people to fill out and at the treatment the pediatricians are recommending in order to know if what is happening is ethical or not.
That is indeed shocking, to think a few questions could be a diagnosis. The lack of physiological knowledge in this disease has lowered the bar for evidence to be actionable and it's not the only disease like that. I'm not a clinician and I expect their job is very difficult, especially because they are used to treating, people with problems need treatment. I'm hopeful with younger clinicians this is changing, it's a complicated job and I do unfortunately think the quality of clinician varies widely.
What you're describing is bias that we would be looking to avoid in interpreting the data.