Thanks,
@Hutan. I wish there were more resources online from the perspective of a disabled person, rather than for nurses. Now I know to look in patient groups and forums, rather than to major organisations for guides, but at the beginning, we couldn't find anything on how to place a bedpan, so I muddled through standing up for a commode for 2 months after it stopped being feasible for me.
Now I know how:
- have someone roll me onto my side
- place the bedpan behind me against my skin in the position it would be relative to my body if I were laying on it
- push it down a few centimetres into the bed, crucially. Do not push it towards me, do not just hold it firmly where it is, or I either will not end up squarely on top of it when I roll back onto my back, or I won't be able to roll back at all. Because your hips are heavy, they sink into the bed much more than a bedpan on its side does, therefore if you don't push it down into the bed, it'll be way off to the side when you roll back. Rolling back also pushes it to the side a bit (if you think of the way a line of books fall sideways on a shelf, it's the same thing - the books don't end up directly on top of one another) so this is important to counteract that
- allow me to roll onto my back, and let the direction of your pressure on the bedpan follow me in a diagonal - so you change from pushing directly down to pushing down and away from your body, until I'm on top of the bedpan
- After I'm done, hook one hand under my knee and hold the lip of the bedpan firmly so it doesn't tip when I roll off
- Using your other hand, push my shoulder to roll me onto my side and off the bedpan
- Have a wipe ready to immediately catch any drips of urine that otherwise run down the back of the thigh and onto the bed
- Don't put wipes in the bedpan! Because they shouldn't be flushed down the toilet. A small lidless rubbish bin is handy to have for this, and the bag can be tied and thrown out immediately after
- Moisture from wet wipes and sweat disrupts skin integrity and increases chance of infection and pressure injury, so a small towel to dry off is helpful (this should also be changed as frequently as possible)
- If you're caring for someone and they tell you that you missed a spot wiping or they don't feel clean, please, please, please do not argue. It's worth it to just clean them again for the psychological peace of mind they have in feeling clean. Also, you need to wipe probably a lot harder than you imagine, and any speck of waste left on the skin folds can turn into massive irritation that the person can't do anything to fix themselves, and is simply a form of torture. Wipe every surface, including the inner sides of the cleft of the buttocks; wipe in a circular motion when you think you're close to finished.
I hope this is useful to somebody. Toileting has been one of the biggest sources of suffering for me, especially in the two years I was in hospital or aged care (now that I am home and receiving 1:1 care, there are no time pressures that would cause someone to do an insufficient job of it, and I don't receive any nasty comments from nurses about how difficult I'm making their lives).