So much info about pacing is minimising the importance of it , there’s always a bit about how it “helps you do more” or some success where someone can have a day out walking or something.
None of it helps you manage your realistic factual responsibilities and ADLs
I’d honestly like to see a terrifying shock campaign about pacing, if we had that I might have taken time out in the beginning.
Yep. 100% agree.
Those who got given even the correct information to start with the line is 'well they can talk about pacing but' and we all know what they mean. Also noone seems to know that there might be 'no treatment for ME/CFS' but the medical system has actually instructed people over the years not to even try things that might help individuals be a little better. And that includes the 'no investigation' and inference of whatever instructing people to not treat them medically for
anything meaning that not only don't they have a cure for ME/CFS but these are people who have something serious that got banned from anything just 'untreated people'.
Hence I wondered whether it was perhaps some massive nationwide guinea pig scheme of if we just choose not to treat anyone with none of these 'red flags' (we can't get away with not treating diabetes or cancer) then forced them through various behavioural versions of 'ignore them and they'll stop crying and asking for help'. But the outrageous bit was they never had any intention to monitor the results.
It isn't even the cheek of that being 'accept your new life' but that noone is telling anyone near you anything other than the opposite. And noone wants to know if it works or helps or if you get worse and there might be something else going on.
Yet that idea that someone would be 'more well' if they had just been careful and only done a little bit each day - with no support or leeway to make that possible or accepted.
So they don't, it has become quite clear, when someone uses that term in the way they do (it should be 'has to conserve their energy and carefully manage to stay within their envelope so need people to be considerate' not advice to the person) that in itself is behavioural, and the world is such it is taken as if you are still ill 'it's because you aren't practising your pacing well enough'. EDIT: and here I'd add the radical rest/letting people overdo on the things they see important but let them rest it off completely.
And if they hadn't been finished off before they got to that stage if they were kids forced through GET then it becomes really pertinent if someone has it in their youth and has it a long time (ie isn't one of the able to radically rest and then recovers after x years). Because they will know full well that they might want to experience once in their life a music festival, or nights out or other things that are rites of passage.
Or want a career or degree that doesn't really have the flexibility to accommodate their illness, and certainly not without them having to sacrifice their health and feel like a bad student/worker at some point. And of course if you are looking strategically at 'a lifetime' then getting a career where there is part time or flexibility on a good enough salary you can live without the stress caused by not being able to afford to be away from noise and difficult commutes and so on, then the pathways there will not be the options conducive to pacing. SO which is better? Try and get through what is needed for those careers and have better for health options long term, or focus on health early on but that mightn't be as flexible in options later on.
I think even those who understand
some of the opportunities and invidious choices, noone has nailed getting the big picture across of how it isn't just that one task used as an example but imagine multiplying these competing things up. And people seeing the impact of that time they thought it was
just making them do that extra half hour, or manipulated them into doing x - was far more knock-on then they were prepared to imagine. Which I know is disability in general also.