Indeed to the normal long term responsibility on careNo, not always.
Take MS for instance. The relapsing/remitting group includes people who're on a downward trajectory, where every relapse is a step down the ladder. Some may have minimal progression for years, then suddenly have a big flare that bumps them down three or four rungs. It's very unpredictable, but it's a different pattern from people with continual deterioration.
Remitting doesn't always imply normal function. It can mean significantly impaired, but less so than in an active flare (a friend with MS is currently in remission, but she still needs care support). It's partly about treatment/medication needs, where people can manage on maintenance therapy in remissions, but may have additional treatment or care needs in relapses. It's an elastic definition because it's used in all kinds of conditions that have periods of relative quiescence interspersed with more active ones.
One of the things we need to know about ME/CFS is what these patterns are like over whole lifetimes, and how many patterns there are. At the moment nobody is following people long term, the way they do in the hospital rheumatology department that treats my psoriatic arthritis. They develop huge experience of disease patterns and courses because they follow people all the way from initial onset.
the other issue is that the relapse term used for cfs comes from mental health/regab terminology and doesn’t use relapsing-remitting but is inferring other things
the MS example is all very well but even with that significant changes to the terminology and then it being used correctly snd having good descriptions that are used instead of eg relapsed into an addiction (in our case it is a whiff of ‘the bad habits’ of not being able to get up and get to work on time, sleep at right time as if it’s behavioural cause where that is cart before horse and has been caused by the six months before of striving to get to work on time etc) is a long way off.
I think there is room for better terms that are more accurate . I also think if we are thinking of MS as a comparator/anchor here in describing patterns for us to have a page bringing up more information specifically on the patterns in this and what it is like - as we have the PEM thing and the crashes then just about recovering to then have another crash ‘way of life’ most of us are at best forced into and told to put a smile on our face or be criticised, and the overall downward deterioration over a long enough time period there or suddenly not being able to do it eg six months seems to be the time when our mind over matter on eg GET type pushing suddenly comes home to roost with a bang.
it’s only of use anchoring if there are enough similarities and not significant opposites within this ms term vs what we would be meaning for me/cfs and it might need to be an adapted term for us (and need to be adapted anyway as they are just calling actual deterioration ‘relapse’ currently as it is at the moment and not using it to mean just those with relapsing remitting who have a crash)
I’m cynical that we aren’t just obscuring still/further the really fundamental and important bits people need to understand- that ignoring our needs means we get progressively worse - just to argue another issue that isn’t necessarily either well tackled by this term