But if S4ME is going to advise families to stick to saying 'my child can't do XYZ because it makes them ill', rather than 'my child can't do XYZ because it makes them ill due to [unproven theory]' because the second form of words will expose them to safeguarding procedures and allegations of creating a toxic family environment, it'd better be sure that actually is the case, and that sticking to the first form of words won't attract the same allegations regardless.
I think we have two issues
I’ve always hated the biobabble stuff that makes the rest of us want a new label just as much as the cfs label literally is created to make us feel violated like an actual cattle brand by how it changes how people interact with us so we get the equivalent of ‘everyday [sex]ism’ constantly many times a day.
And I don’t get why we’ve never really had a sure, proper good charity just giving good info with no added nonsense from other bits so that the most of us who just want to not be branded by either can just have a normal illness reputation-wise. But also if things are discussed then done so properly so people aren’t having to spend years working out if 35 supplements is bs or not etc. Whilst being open to some small things help some and no sleep hygiene can be incredibly destructive to those with a certain type at least so it doesn’t ‘help’ or need to be imposed on all etc.
But on the other hands it’s not these people having cause of the horrific things being done to others who have nothing to do with it barring there always being if they do it to enough of us the odd one you can claim accidentally said or actually believed one thing then no it’s not them really ‘asking for it’ and at best bps have gone about priming the situation so unless we are saying the lie that doing more makes us more well they can then lie and say we’ve said something loopy. I see it happen.
People are getting these things happen because bps are priming them, and yes they are looking up any material they can use to back up the claim but if it didn't exist, they invent it as we know from the court case on the heckled once in one lecture vs constantly claiming all patients are out there doing death threats nutbagging.
It’s a worse situation than the ‘she shouldn’t have been walking alone down a dark path’ or ‘wearing those clothes’ because that fib is primed to be seen even when the person actually did or said neither.
I underline the word priming because I’ve seen it where my incredibly careful words have been saying nothing near it but that person opposite has been so incited they imagine it before it’s even said. It is horrific to live under.
It is literally so powerful as a childish tactic that a GP I was seeing for something else over a long period called me in once they realised I also had this diagnosis. And because I knew to slag off myself and level of illness to stay safe based on their intro then started congratulating me on ‘being better’ because ‘I was wearing lipstick’ (when I can’t wear make up only due to eye issues and this was just lip balm as it was winter but it happened to be coloured as that’s what the supermarket had). THEN retrospectively REWROTE history in her own mind to tell me she was relieved ‘because I’d been so ill I’d worn a dressing gown to that first appointment’.
Now firstly I didn’t own a dressing gown then. It was only a day later I clocked she false-memoried (thanks to incitement) a black thick very expensive and well kept cashmere and angora overcoat that just happen to have a tie at the waste. And was complimented by all , probably her
at the time. But now I had this label , and she’d read this nonsense and had someone in her ear well that was something completely different. She could no longer see straight and I knew she could no longer hear straight as had been told my voice was that of a deluded, so fox then with saying what they want to hear and get the hell away from the unsafe person. Whatever the lifelong cost literally that has had on the rest of my life that no other illness would take I knew if I didn’t sacrifice everything I needed and should have had to get out of there then the alternative is worse and extreme.
I had to choose sacrificing all just to survive that day. And that’s happened many many times over and it’s chilling and unmistakable.
And no that’s not over reaction as I’ve been there enough times before and you can’t talk sense because once someone has been primed like this they can’t hear you , you don’t exist other than writing a fake file of things they don’t even realise they imagined because bps put it in their mouth and head.