Jonathan Edwards
Senior Member (Voting Rights)
What in the name of all the saints is Spoonie culture supposed to be?
I guess it is: https://www.healthline.com/health/spoon-theory-chronic-illness-explained-like-never-before#4
Rowling clearly gets things completely wrong and her approach is inexcusable.
But I do recognise what I think she has encountered and extrapolated from.
S4ME is a safe place. I continue to be astonished at how it manages to be a friendly, constructive place to talk about ideas and feelings and end up feeling it was worth dipping in, even if on odd occasions one's pride gets a dent or two.
My previous experience with being a board member for another forum brought me into contact with other internet groups where if you did not chant the group mantra you had the very nastiest abuse hurled at you. I know exactly what Simon Wessely was complaining about - I just don't think he had any right to grumble. I got the same stuff, despite trying to be on the patients' side! The nasty stuff one sees on medical Reddit boards has its patient equivalent. One cannot be blind to that. We have encountered here one or two very strange individuals over the last decade who might some of the time appear as stalwart advocates but at other times showed a very different side. I won't say more.
But I suspect that Rowling's picture may be more directly fed by experiences with medical charities. We don't need to go very far to think of hints. We have been discussing cosy groupthink at places like MEA recently. The same used to apply to AfME. Fixed ideas have not been alien to Forward ME either. Maybe Rowling had a bad experience with the MS charity. Perpetual 'patient' chairpersons and the like have often seemed to have remarkably little evidence of having the illness concerned, or at least to have recovered so long ago that nobody could tell.
And these organisations form the main public profile of many chronic diseases. I am not saying in any way that Rowling is justified but I can see how someone might come to her position.
It makes me wonder what it is about S4ME that protects it from any of this. Nobody here uses the forum as an ego trip. Thank God.
It would be interesting to talk to Rowling and try to make her see sense. Maybe that 7M£ of sense we were talking about. Maybe Chris Ponting might meet her on the bus one day...