I've woken this morning feeling dreadful about what i said. Who the hell am I to comment about any of it really - I'm not in that situationand the last thing i would want would be for anything i said to discourage anyone from pulling out all the stops to save a life.
I was just trying to convey the seriousness of the impact that travel has on me, I obviously cant speak for anyone else.
I read it that you were patiently explaining to JE why an ambulance ride for one hundred miles would be a serious concern for someone in Karen’s situation. How maybe JE was underestimating the impact in terms of pain and deterioration when he said he wondered how reasonable patients and their families were being. Saying that the pain can be so bad and prolonged afterwards that you yourself might choose not to endure it even if it was your only chance, isn’t saying that another person ought to die.
A person severely affected by ME may be at the top of their limit of pain and not feel like they could withstand more.
If this were the case they might quite rationally and reasonably fight for doctors to make other options available to them, or rather their family or support network might.
This situation isn’t comparable to a person with cancer because while cancer could be far far more painful making an ambulance ride agony and worse than for people even very sick with ME, and their condition certainly is far more deadly than ME, a cancer patient can reasonably hope for effective treatments to prolong their lives or to lessen their pain when they reach their destination. At least doctors will have some knowledge of their condition and be familiar with complications and considerations for this patient.
Whereas an ME patient knows that while feeding will prolonged their life, if they get much worse from a journey there is nothing that can or will be done for them. They might fear whether they can stand to be alive in a worsened state.
If the very severely affected ME patient has had ME for a long time they may not trust that good treatment is there for them at the end of an ordeal like this. It would be rational and reasonable not to trust.
I don’t think people with bone cancer should be put through the pain of a low suspension ambulance ride. I don’t think anyone should. I think hospital transportation needs an urgent upgrade.
I agree with JE that even if fears confirmed and travel increased severity of illness life above all else. There is a chance of improvement.
I believe patients in general would have better outcomes in separate rooms. But for a person very severely affected with ME the separate room is the medical intervention, there is no other specifically for the condition.