To answer the first part of your post, it isn't this simple. You may well have assumed you would get better, but if we take predictive processing, the key issue is whether your brain determined you were safe or not. Multiple factors can potentially play into that decsion. Subconscious danger isn't a 'damaging idea,' it's how the brain works. We are bombarded by a huge amount of information daily - that can range from tv adverts, newspaper articles, things people share online, conversations, cars in the distance, bikes, dogs on walks, things that will relate to past (bad and good) memories. Thousands and thousands and thousands of bits of data that we can't hold in conscious awareness. Our brains make shortcuts in processing this all the time, we couldn't function without that. So your brain has one eye, essentially, on threat, in a way you aren't aware of. That is established fact. It means we can act quickly if a car veers off the road and heads towards us - we may be walking and in conversation with someone but can then spot it and act before we have time to make a conscious decision about what is happening.
None of this is about insulting you and your character, it's about the world of the brain beneath what you're aware of and it acting accordingly (i.e with a sickness response that is cleverly designed to keep you safe by getting you out of your environment for any number of reasons, including survival of your tribe)
NONE of this is being used to 'bash' people with M.E. That is pure hyperbole. It's the opposite, it's trying to HELP people understand themselves better. A key question becomes, what might have been going on in my life to trigger my brain to trigger a sickness response when my symptoms stared.
Good luck to anyone who recovers anyhow. We may never know their underlying aetiology anyway. Symptoms are after all non specific.
But isn't a lot of your stuff a very modern mix of me-ism and Marxism? My story is my truth and if you contradict it, I'll try to persuade you that your truth is not the truth and mine is, not because my truth is the truth but because it works for me, and it works even more if I conceive of it as the objective truth about ME and therefore about all other pwME, though I do not care to look into their stories in any depth, at least where such depth might contradict my truth. Then I will throw in insults - you don't want to get better. digging heels in etc. That's what you've done isn't it? The concern, the kindness, push back then the accusations fly, then the shutdown perhaps??
Why Marx , because "the purpose of philosophy is not to observe the world but to change it" (No wonder one of the big BPS men was called Engels!) Truth can be relegated in the struggle for change under wise vanguard masters who "care" and then attack as is their "right". The relegation must never be admitted as that will limit the power of the "truth" and this is not about the actual truth (truths imo) as it applies to a whole cohort but about the "truth" effective for some., (NLP etc. responsive,) whose wellbeing is dependent on silencing or denigrating the others (with the best of intentions). Not the truth as applies to all pwME but a version of truth applied on behalf of some. as it it applies to all, for the sake of the "some"
Anyway, you change your world as you are able, good luck while doing no harm. You may indeed care abut helping others and it may be dangerous to you to even think about what I write. But you may well not care about me or what I write, as I am "counter project" a danger to my own and others' health, you might think But if you really cared about the truth/s of ME you would take on board that you with all the NLP/etc failures and the alternative ways of improving/recovering, the wee Teitelbaum anecdotes, the way Alex Howard found that doing brain stuff was not good enough. (Neither Teitelbaum nor AH are friends of this parish, I would say). You do not have a one size fits all understanding, analysis, remedy, therapy, means of resetting. But you must pretend.
You may find that hard to admit to the above , you may dig your heels in, because it might make it harder to change your world and those of your type of sufferer and that is your world, which you want to keep changed and the truth is secondary to that aim and the rest of us can.....?????!!!??????!!!!!
You care enough to talk to pwME, but I doubt very much that you are willing to listen.
Now a specific question. Your version of fear is a closed brain based loop. What if a source of the fear is another physiological problem which drives the fear? Such would not contradict the existence of fear but it would substantially change clinical approach towards ridding the biophysical foundation, and you do not know that substantial numbers are not affected this way. You may have your cohort, but all of us????????
Stay well/asymptomatic.