I can't help wondering if maybe "designed solely for ME" is actually part of the problem? Why not offer people with ME the same regular kind of supportive CBT that is offered to people with for example MS, stroke, SLE/lupus and other severely disabling chronic illnesses?
We're not psychologically ill, so why should we accept any form of CBT? CBT is based on the assumption that you have faulty thinking patterns.
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Same. For my actual mental health problems, I found self help books more helpful than IAPT CBT lol. But maybe the therapist that I got was just an idiot.
and 'therapists' on the other, who are often people who are trained to apply specific theories through specific techniques whether or not there is any reason to think they work. The distinction is not black and white.
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CBT may have value when you are struggling with thoughts/beliefs that are not rational/logical, leading to unhelpful behaviours. PwME are just as likely to suffer from such ideas as anybody else and they can make your life miserable... For example 'being ill is weakness' or 'being too ill to look after my children makes me a terrible mother' or 'my worth lies in my achievements'.... etc etc.
If you're struggling with such ideas then usually a compassionate sensible person -friend/doctor/nurse can help.
But sometimes looking into where that belief/idea has originated can be helpful, because sometimes when your friend says 'look these are the reasons you are a good mother and what you think is wrong', their words just bounce off & have no impact & you remain distressed.
I think particularly with ME where best management is to go against all of society's general assumptions (eg people who push through are determined & tough, & those who stop when tired are lazy & undisciplined), it can be helpful. But the point isnt (like JE points out) specific theories/techniques, but a simple acknowledgement of reality and compassionate support.
I've had psychotherapy (humanistic approach - which isnt about technique but is an egalitarian approach, rather than a freudian 'therapist knows best' one) but it wasnt for my ME. It did help me manage my ME better though, because it got to the bottom of why on earth i detested myself for being ill, and why i believed that being ill & unable to 'push through it' was weak and pathetic.
She helped me to reveal those ideas as the crap they were by exploring with me what i felt, &
why. It led to my being able to grasp that pacing wasnt giving in or being 'wet', but a proactive way of making the best out of the hand that had been dealt to me, which improved my management & therefore my QoL a bit.
None of my friends/family were able to do this because it required some really focused listening & an understanding of how ME can affect a person's life, & they all wanted to encourage me to do more so weren't really very helpful tbh. Had there been good info about the realities of the condition online/from Drs instead of the shite that is out there from official sources, they they perhaps could have helped me more.
So in terms of the OP, & whether there is a good 'type' of CBT.... In my view its not the type of therapy thats important imo, it's the beliefs of the therapist. Any counsellor/therapist who understands that ME is a seriously life impacting disease with all that goes with it, can give supportive listening & help you work through things.
But any therapist who believes that ME is caused by faulty/unhelpful thoughts & behaviour is going to be harmful, certainly emotionally (& PEM being what it is likely physically too) - in just the same way that seeing a 'grief counsellor' who believed it was possible to think people back to life & raise them from the dead would be harmful to a bereaved person - the techniques they used in the room would be irrelevant it's the underpinning beliefs that would be the problem.
I dont think PwME should be offered/given any kind of therapy as a matter of course, any more than PwMS are. Some people adjust reasonably quickly and well to being ill/disabled, for others they may need support - same as some people need support after bereavement & some dont.
Edited: to clarify in first paragraph. Changed 'CBT is valuable' to 'may have value'