McCone knows 12 people in his pre-pandemic circles who now also have long COVID, most of whom confided in him only because “I’ve posted about this for three years, multiple times a week, on Instagram, and they’ve seen me as a resource,” he said. Some are unwilling to go public, because they fear the stigma and disbelief that have dogged long COVID. “People see very little benefit in talking about this condition publicly,” he told me. “They’ll try to hide it for as long as possible.”
This is familiar. And speaks to how for e.g. ME/CFS unbelievably the disability itself is absolutely huge, but somehow society has managed to find a way to create an even bigger disability it has loaded onto these people. SO big that those with this incredible disability feel better-off damaging that by taking their 40% of normal people's energy and doing 120% of some normal persons job [to make sure noone can suspect] and smiling
compared to the 'additional brutality' they get from coming out.
Mention it and get barrages from other peoples horrible ranty ideologies you didn't know was hidden dark inside their pretend personas they've put out for years, until you crossed-the-bridge where they think you so diminished now in status that you telling others you've seen who they really are won't be believed, heard or disagreed with (the scariest when you realise almost all actually think that way and you tell a horror story about another only to find the other person justifying
them).
So ironically I think that we can with a good methodologist probably quantify just how much a debility and injury the 'stigma' (not a strong enough word) is as an injury and disability in itself. Simply by looking at exactly when people had eventually to come out, how severe they were, and looking at the support network they had defending them vs those who didn't have that firebreak from the innate animosity of the weaponised mental health label narrative given permission to 'go at it' for everyone around an individual. And seeing how far their health and life fell and how quickly for those.
ANd defining that drop as 'what those people took from them in terms of health, rights and life'. Because it is so stark in ME/CFS: 6months after the 'events' there is the beginning of your results and 2yrs on if it is still getting worse than it remains.
And LC is a very good and clean one to also do at the same time due to the time periods of it. I'd do ME/CFS also (and it needs the different severities because of the ability to hide or not) to separate it from accusations of it being 'covid' politics.
Because of the nature of the energy-limited condition and 'sensitivities' (often we aren't 'sensitive' we just had what normal persons couldn't put up with without it affecting their health levied at us and it causes us more harm more quickly because without break the exertion impact vs reducing rest is devastating) these choices of those around us to choose how to weaponise bystanders and laypersons or not, by making it socially unacceptable,
are in themselves a defineable disability/injury.
And my gut about when people say others can't understand and see ME: it is a lie. Certainly the darkest personalitieis if they get to be around you just enough can spot exactly such perfect buttons to press in exact timing to cause maximum damage there is no way that it isn't perfectly evident to those looking (which predatory types or those with certain personaliities do partly because of their 'aping' and scanning social norms rather than empathy coming from within etc).
And yes we have a lot of people in between who play the 'don't bother about anyone else' so just choose not to look and ingore if they can to self-focus on what they fancy, but they'd be pulled right into line by social norms because it would shift the balance for them too.
So we very sadly have this massive 'disability' (on top of the actual health one) that perhaps is even bigger than the health one if people were allowed to just be and have support to surive and a bit of acceptance to get on with it but it might eke at the edges with hours or exhuastion here or there which is entirely a convoluted creation of those who claim it is nothing.
The closest analogy is a society choosing to remove all ramps and dropped kerbs and thereby confine all wheelchair users to the house forevermore. But imagine if they got further bullied in their home. Bullied for not being able to get to the office. Except for us it affects us in our own homes and degrades our health so so swiflty with bullying on things that hurt us and lack of access to things that might be the difference between dropping like a stone or keeping afloat with a symptom combination.
It's stupidly harmful and deluded concepts like 'sleep training' that I think can take around 20% off my health in the space of a month that idiots believe in merely because of
what - idiocy and seeking to be judgemental (good patient-bad patient game theory is played a
lot in dividing our condition)? Heck we had the world 'helpfully' thinking that forcing us to exercise whilst they watched it make us more collapsed based probably only on some awful people's horrible innate delusion of that being what we deserved (which they don't admit to themselves) 'for not being normal' and the worst bit from term: end of conversation (because they are too rude to want to put actual intellectual anything on that).
And none of that is necessary as disability or needs to exist, we
could be as productive and healthy as our health allows (which yes is limited but better than
even more limited and less independent) - it is mainly there by choice of those around us choosing to add it on: if you can't be perfect then you can have daily bigotry on top as a further doubling of your disability and illness. The horrid irony being they eventually drive you to not being able to be independent - even though knowing who is out there at that point is a worst nightmare has meant you've tried anything to avoid any part of that - so properly stuck at not being able to be independent at all by that point.
That's the irony of what they did:
caused the thing they criticise and say is their blight.
I'd like people to start owning that who choose to do it and the consequences of their stepping out and choosing that end impact. And no it isn't
our 'mental health' or 'ability to cope', it is dark (or deluded) people who choose to pick on and do what they would never do to other healthies those who they know such actions will do direct damage to - for whatever reason (normally it is just the world permitting them to now 'take liberties from' because hey if they argue back they are the weirdo). At least let's put at the door what extent-wise is caused by what.