So, the fact that there seems to be acute infections involving fevers and sickness behaviour, that can be serious to the point of killing people and result in people lying in bed for a couple of weeks or more but that don't have an associated post-infective 'fatigue' syndrome suggests that the fatigue syndrome isn't (primarily or only) a result of deconditioning or a psychological response to the trauma.
It's not likely that most people will know whether they have a disease with an associated fatigue syndrome before deciding whether to avail of the secondary benefits of ME/CFS. That and the fact that people all over the world who haven't heard of ME or CFS seem to develop it after only specific illnesses suggests that the illness isn't psychogenic.
It suggests that whether a person develops a post-infective 'fatigue' syndrome has something to do with the illness. Of course, not everyone gets the post-infective syndrome after EBV or Q-fever, so there's probably a host-pathogen interaction, but there's something that differentiates the pathogens that cause a post-infective fatigue syndrome from those that don't.
The weird thing is the range of types of pathogens that are associated with a fatigue syndrome - viruses, bacteria, amoeba and even the toxins from dinoflagellates in the case of ciguatera. In the case of amoeba, as I previously noted, I wonder if it's not really the amoeba (e.g. giardia) that causes the fatigue syndrome but another pathogen that infects people at the same time, either from the same contaminated water or even actually inside the amoeba. I saw that the bacteria that causes Q-fever (Coxiella burnetii) can live inside amoeba, as can legionella bacteria.
If we could make a really good list of the pathogens firmly associated with a post-infective fatigue syndrome and those that are clearly not, it might be possible to narrow down the ways that the illness might be causing the CFS.
Re the severity - I'm not sure. In the case of my family, my daughter was hospitalised with severe stomach pains, but for my son and I, from memory it just seemed like a standard gastro-flu. And my daughter was the one less severely affected. I've had worse illnesses before.
What did Jason's prospective EBV Chicago studies find? I think they may have found an association with severity? Did they use any objective rating of severity?