Important point, and it's something the 'fatigue clinics' don't get at all when they tell people to do 'activity planners' - you can't just allocate a certain amount of effort to a particular activity, because it will take more out of you when you've been overstretched in other ways.
Yes this situation really needs some careful thought because it is a major issue
they don’t seem to get the cumulative either
so focus on splitting things but it meaning it takes more energy in total when the issue is fitting in all the tasks you need to get done in the week vs threshold too small is the real issue is just a distraction at best, but adding cognitive load, risk it never gets finished and potentially takes more overall energy across those three bits which doesn’t solve the issue.
I’m glad
@JemPD has mentioned the things she has up thread including the important point about cumulative
and the really important bit about laypersons’ ‘delayed’ vs those who have me who are saying theirs isn’t delayed
the issue is that we don’t get the warnings at the time of doing it when we are more mild (when severe we often have such a low threshold we are already ill and it’s tiny things we know we shouldn’t do and hurt to do)
and the rolling PEM but also ‘rolling up cumulative exertion’ I just don’t know if some only note the crash when it gets to the stop you in your tracks stage or there is that ongoing thing too when you don’t get enough rest to fully rest off the last crash before you have to step back into over exerting as daily life and it’s that
as far as clues for research the delayed PEM is really important to get to the bottom of ironing out if those who were immediate it was immediate because some seem to say that delay is a clue as to the mechanism.
it’s also important to note we can’t just do a planner and alls fine as per fatigue clinics assuming it’s boom and bust rather than energy envelope and there being more likely need for radical resting to get something necessary done eg an appointment being understood and useful (as well as them pulling their finger out in getting adjustments understood as needed ) instead of their fiction if we split out washing up and alternated talking to the kids with doing a physical chore that would fix the weeks cumulation.
plus they no longer understand the term cognitive as they should it seems and have been taught to think it means mental health aka emotion and stress - which is them being wrong and inaccurate but fits what they’d rather deliver vs understanding remembering to go back downstairs to complete the other half of x task might mean more cognitive load than just doing it in one go.
it’s great some people can avoid PEM . I certainly think we should have a world that gives us a fighting chance via fair adjustments that would be little skin off others nose to offer. And shouldn’t be inflicted on us and when we say we can’t do x because it will mean x for 6weeks tgat disability be understood (just because it happens after the issue with PEM I’m being disappeared is partly about people arguing with the word ‘can’t’ )
I think we need to be careful with wirding that infers WE are responsible for our PEM. And moral stuff about those who have to live a dangerous thing of PEM recover PEM recover because medical appointments and showers and must do tasks are all unavoidable all cause PEM and I just radical rest to complete the next then suffer and so on. That isn’t MY management- I’m being tenacious whilst being undermined by lack of support and understanding - and we need to make sure that tone from others that they are happy to take ‘that the lesson is for ourselves and our behaviour’ starts getting squashed firmly.