I am sorry for the loss of youy workmate
@Barry.
I have nothing against anyone seeking support for anything and wouldn't judge them for it.
Personally, I don't believe that everyone who is seriously ill wants or needs this positivity stuff. I feel it is damaging to puah people to feel positive (or say they do) when actually they're angry, sad or scared.
The way I have heard some talk, it's as if their positivity
alone is what meant they survived. They will even happily say this in front of people who have recently lost close ones. The implication, intended or not, being that they are stronger, more positive, somehow superior.
People are people. We're all different and shouldn't be made feel bad because we don't feel the way other people think we are supposed to. Especially, when we are seriously ill.
My issue is with people who have been helped with this support
in addition to effective medical treatment, encouraging me and trying to persuade me that I will see a significant improvement and recover with what was just a supportive tool for for them and no effective medical treatment.
In the early days I spent time, money and resources I could have better used elsewhere thanks to this kind of thing.